"I will build you up again,
and you, Virgin Israel, will be rebuilt.
Again you will take up your tambourines
and go out to dance with the joyful."
To be built up again, one must be torn down at least once.
When anyone is rebuilding a house, they have to make sure all damaged debris is pulled away before rebuilding. Just as a house, when someone hurts us we must be allowed to rid our self of the debris of that damage. we can't hold onto the broken piece or it grows in bitterness, which will rot out the new structure we try to build.
Everyone has been hurt at some point in their lives. The pain can be deep, sharp, and feel as though it may never be healed. We must let go the of the splintered shards of insults, broken trust, or unhealthy expectation. The splinters are getting under your fingernails, not the one who inflicted the pain, it can damage your life. When you are hurting you feel helpless, like you can't help anyone else, but it's not true. Being honest with you pain both to God and a close friend can be just the right medicine to draw out the splinters and start the rebuilding.
No matter what caused your heart's damage, winds of rejection, the fires of insult, or the waters of despair, it is not the end of your story. You are not alone. Earlier I said everyone has been hurt, and it's true, but not everyone gets healed. It's your choice, the healing is always there. You must forgive, let go; to begin the rebuilding, to be healed.
Allow the healing to begin.